The Brutal Lesson That Taught Me the Power of Accountability
March and April were tough months for me.
From the outside, it looked like I was winning:
🌟 My son Ezra got accepted into Harrow School.
🏡 I bought my first property, as a single mum, following redundancy and divorce.
But behind the scenes? I was exhausted.
Alone.
And, honestly, heartbroken.
What no one saw was how much I was struggling with the silence from my closest friends — many of them people I’d known for over a decade.
During one of the hardest 18-month periods of my life — separation, divorce, job loss, moving home with two kids and literally no money left — not one person showed up with groceries, a candle, flowers, or even just company.
I didn’t notice it at first because I’m a busybody by nature. I kept showing up for them — driving over, making time, planning dinners. But when I sold my car and had nothing left to give… the silence was deafening.
So in April, I did something I hadn’t needed to do for a while. I started speaking up.
I had real conversations with the friends who let me down. I said what needed to be said — not to shame anyone, but because leaving things unspoken weighs me down and blocks my flow. And it was blocking my productivity.
I had stopped showing up for myself:
No makeup
Living in joggers
Working from the sofa
And wondering why my energy — and sales — were low
But I turned a corner. And the shift wasn’t magic. It was accountability.
Here’s what helped me get my spark back:
🔥 1. I Created an Accountability WhatsApp Group
With two fellow boss mums (one also newly divorced and about to publish her third book!) — we talk about everything from launches to healing to dating again. Last Friday, we had a 2-hour virtual co-working session and it was pure gold. I left buzzing.
🔥 2. I Invested in My Space & Self
I bought a proper chest of drawers (you don’t realise how much disorganisation slows you down until you can’t find your socks). I got my hair done. I started caring again — about my home, my body, my peace.
🔥 3. I Got Dressed
Makeup. Proper clothes. Not for the algorithm, but for me. For the version of myself who used to show up to the office as the polished, put-together woman she worked hard to become.
🔥 4. The Results?
Within days, a new client found me — an influencer with a packed to-do list who hired me as her daily 90-minute co-working and accountability partner. Monday to Friday, every evening.
Energy attracts energy. Accountability builds momentum.
So, what does your version of accountability look like right now?
If you’re tired of waiting for motivation and ready to build momentum — here’s how to start:
✨ 1. Download our free Time-Blocking Guide:
A simple, powerful tool to help you structure your days with intention.
✨ 2. Join the TOK 6AM Club
Daily virtual co-working sessions designed to help you start the day strong, focused, and held.
Accountability changed everything for me.
It can do the same for you.
With love and purpose,
Charlotte x
Founder, The Organised Kollective